If you were keeping track of Jennifer Lopez‘s love life in the past few years, then you were in for a wild ride. While fans rejoiced when she reconciled with fellow A-lister Ben Affleck in 2021, and went on to get engaged and tie the knot in 2022, their love bubble didn’t last long, and the two broke things off exactly two years after their big wedding in Atlanta, Georgia.
Their second chance at love was bumpy, and it left the Maid in Manhattan star questioning everything about her life. Now, however, she’s looking back at everything that’s happened since their split, and how she’s learned to heal and love herself after it.
In a June 15 appearance on the Smartless podcast, Lopez opened up about divorcing Affleck and forcing herself to look at her life choices in a whole new way.
“After my last divorce, I canceled my tour and I sat there and I was just like, ‘You need to f— figure yourself out,’” she said. “‘What is going on with you? Forget about everybody else. There’s nobody to blame here except yourself, in a certain way.’”
Luckily, those reflections became a “turning point” in her life.
“I was able to go back to that little girl [I once was] and really look at her,” the “On the Floor” singer revealed. “And just kind of going like, ‘You did this. You did all of this. Give yourself a little f— something. A little love! Stop looking for love in other things and give it to yourself.’”
Those sentiments were then echoed by her sister, Lynda Lopez, who told her she needed to become her own “keeper.”
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As a reminder, Lopez has been divorced four times. She was briefly married to actor Ojani Noa from 1997 to 1998, dancer Cris Judd from 2001 to 2003, singer Marc Anthony from 2004 to 2014, with whom she shares the twins, and then to Affleck from 2022 to 2025. In the interview, without naming names, she said, “My life blew up in my own face” when speaking about her love life.
“It was because of the choices I made, but also because of the fact that I had things that needed to change about myself that I didn’t understand or recognize that was attracting certain things and attracting a certain type of experience into my life,” Lopez reflected. “There comes a point where it’s all so puzzling and wrong where you have to sit there.”
Lopez, who just recently starred in the Netflix rom-com Office Romance alongside Brett Goldstein, finished off her relationship reflections by gushing about how happy she is.
“Everything in my life has changed over the past couple years,” she said. “The past 20 years, it’s been one thing, the past five years has been a tumult, and then the last two years has been kind of the healing process from that tumult where I really got to know myself. The person I am today is so different than the person I was even two years ago, it’s crazy. And now I can really look at my life, appreciate it for what it is and what I’ve created for myself and be really happy.”
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